An emotion is a person’s inner feeling. We know each one has feelings such as happiness, sadness, anger, jealousy, shyness, fear, etc. If you are happy, you will smile, if you are angry you will express your feelings in different ways maybe through facial expression, using a loud voice, etc. What about the kids? Like adults, facial expressions will be there. but the way of outbursting is entirely different.
Kids can also express their feelings through facial expressions, through their body, their behavior, and play. Sometimes they may act out their feelings in physical, or problematic ways. They don’t have control, because they are not considering their surroundings. what they think, it will do like that. For example, an angry child may start with grunting and growling but as their angry feelings intensify, they turn to shout, screaming, hitting and kick, throw objects, cry loudly, lie and rolling on the floor, etc. If the parent becomes angry and starts scolding or punishing, the child’s intense anger will become increasingly persistent leading to toddler anger issues.
Negative emotions can be described as any feeling which causes the child to be miserable and sad. Emotions that can become negative are hate, fear, anger, jealousy, shyness, sadness, frustration, and anxiety, loneliness, resentment, etc.
Reasons for Negative Emotions:
Family environment is perhaps the most important factor contributing to the likelihood of inappropriate behavior. Parents’ work schedules, parents’ family problems, and parenting way of talks, their lifestyle may affect. working parents with young children may find that their children are more likely to have behavioral problems resulting from factors such as poor bonding between parents and children. Another thing is in attention from fatigued parents and the conflict between children wanting attention and the parents’ lack of time.
Two types of factors as Biological factors and Environmental factors can contribute to a child’s struggle with anger regulation and emotional regulation.
Biological factors such as genetics or illnesses. Genetically, some children can be born with a difficult temperament. They are easily frustrated and more “angry-prone. Infants with such temperament display greater physiological reactivity (which they were less able to regulate), poorer attention, and higher activity levels. A study has also found that if a birth mother has high levels of anger, her kids are more likely to also have high levels of anger when they’re exposed to hostile situations.
Environmental factors such as material deprivation, poor parental health, low parental education, family stress, poor school environment. If children are severely punished, criticized, treated with hostile rejection, or ignored by their primary caregiver, they may believe that they are unwanted, unlovable, and “bad”. These negative self-beliefs magnify the shame experienced in the day-to-day negative interactions. When shamed, children may try to avoid this highly negative, painful by displacing shame with feelings of anger.
Signs of Anger
- Pulling hair
- Does not listen
- Throwing things
- Fractious, destroying things
- Throwing a temper tantrum
- Crying for too long
- Hurting parents or a caretaker
- Hurting friends or others.
- Do not respond
- Sit alone with sadness.
How to deal with child anger outbursts?
If you’re a parent, it is a certainty that you have had to deal with an angry child. Often, we end up in shouting matches with our kids, or we freeze up, not knowing what to do when an angry outburst occurs.
Anger is a normal emotion in kids and adults alike. But how we express and deal with our feelings of anger is the difference between living in relative peace and feeling.
Here are some tips for dealing with your child’s Emotion outbursts.
Don’t yell at or challenge your child during an angry outburst. The best thing you can do is remain calm in a crisis.
Don’t try to reason with your child during an angry outburst. when you’re dealing with your angry child, you have to leave that verbal place where you feel pretty comfortable or use different techniques to deviate their mind. You should have a little bit of patience and wait until your kid calms down and then talk it through later.
Don’t try to give overly punishments.
Kid’s anger is out of control and the more you try to punish him to force him to stop and get control of himself, the worse he gets. So keep quiet yet he became calm.
Find a Positive Solution.
First of all, parents should be good listeners. Parents must ask their child ” what is their problem?” or try to understand them with a friendly approach. Then find a positive solution with them.
This is one of the best methods. when anger is triggered, your child feels a rush that gives them more energy and strength and also results in a louder voice. All these can lead to aggression or violence. Here the parents should channelize to something less harmful.
This is very good chemistry among the relation between parents and children. Try to calm down your child during angry outbursts by hugging them or getting them to hold your hand. Touch can have a calming effect on many children and can help defuse a volatile situation instantly.
Keeping the lines of communication.
An open communication in your home is the right way of connecting with your children on all levels and not just when they are angry. If these simple tips do not help you calm your child down over a period, then it might be time to seek professional help.
When your child is angry, try to get them to talk about why they are feeling so. This shows them that you are responding to their needs instead of just reacting. On seeing you lend a listening ear, your child is more likely to calm down.
Parents should be the best friend.
You should be the best friends of your kids. Give them limited freedom and respect their personality also. In our day-to-day life, all parents are facing a lot of difficulties. It may be official, family issues, social and economic, whatever it may be you have a responsibility to make them happy, mental and physically healthy, social and emotional development, etc. To lead a good relation with children you must be like a friend. Then only your kids are ready to talk or open their minds in front of you. Encourage them to develop positive skills, give appreciation at the time of positive expression of anger. Practice Yoga. Yoga will help to control any kind of emotion.